Assumption

It's little strange how assumptions are formed...
The child walks with me, they think she's my kid..
That friend who shops with me, they think he's my man..
I am left to wonder how would that be...
To have a kid, to have a man...
To walk around in his arms...
To feel my own...

Our other sibling

Our Bruno! He left us all two days back and I don't know whether to be happy for all the years of our love and caring or to be sad that he is gone. That leaves a void but somewhere in the mind there is a relief that his sufferings have ended!

My parents brought him up like a child, he was pampered and of course he was the reason to keep them busy after their retirement and at a time when me and my brother were away from home in search of our education and career! Only Ma and Baba will be able to tell of the things that he did, tearing clothes inside and destroying our gardens outside. Yes, he was a kid!

When we visited home he would not allow us to sit with Ma; he had all the energy then to push us away. Ma was his!

Ma and Baba left him a few times in Shillong when they visited us in Delhi and everyday Baba would call our tenants to find out about his well being. On one such occasion Bruno was hit by an arrow and we all went through such mental trauma. Thankfully our neighbor who had a pet of his own took care and saved him. From then on, every visit to Delhi would mean bringing him along with them.

Our Sunday lunch menu includes chicken almost as if it were a rule. And Bruno would be impatient to get his share in a way as to suggest that he has been hungry throughout the week! We will remember this for a long time, Sunday lunches are going to remind us  of him!

When my niece was born, he was so protective that each time she cried he would bark at my Ma and my sis-in-law. She was like his little sister! In fact when my brother got married and his wife put her first steps in though the threshold, he was there! He did not show a single sign of non-recognition even though he had seen her for the first time.

My niece use to call her Bruno babu, out of affection and everything she ate he would want his share on it. He ate vegetables the first time in his when she offered, he ate everything she offered. Sometimes we would ask him to move aside and let her finish, alas only if we knew nothing lasts forever!

The care that Baba took of him is beyond words! He never ate anything before giving it to him, he pampered him in every way, kissed him good night, each night and fed him when he was sick, gave him medicines when he felt Bruno was not doing well....the list is endless! Today I know he suffers, suffers the most, but he won't show it. That's my Baba! The only thing he said was he was happy that Bruno's sufferings from the past two months had ended and that Baba himself would be free of his duties, no more checking on him at each hour, no more wondering what medicine to give him, what food will suit him!

Drishyam - Review

Ufff!!! I don't believe I am writing a film review again, I must be watching too many films these days which is quite unlike me!

Let's keep it simple! I loved the movie, the plot I mean! How everything was planned and how Tabu could read it all! Loved Tabu's acting as always! And her persona!

Few takeaways with a dash of humor!

• It's good to watch movies, non-stop movies! Some day it will save you from a real-life crisis!
• You don't have to go to a branded school. It's in your genes, if you want to study you will, otherwise you will spend time watching movies or filming people or chasing girls!!
• People have short term memory, so it's easy to manipulate them
• Share everything with your family and close friends because no battle can be won alone. The earlier you do, the better.
• No matter what, the youngest one will always spill the beans!
• Never underestimate anyone, not even a 4th grade pass-out.

And most importantly - It's family first!!!

P.S.  To moms and dads of sons, teach your son the right values otherwise he may be dumped in some corner and you may never find out why? 

Health and We - Our tongue

Health is Wealth! We have heard this since ages and yet we take so little care! And we go after medicines and medicines when we could know the symptoms ourselves.

The tongue is often called the mirror of the stomach. A healthy tongue is free of any discomfort, such as pain, stinging, burning, swelling, excrescences or numbness. It is moist, with a rough surface, and has an evenly colored pink surface overlaying pale red.

If the tip of the tongue is very red, it could mean that the acid intake is more. It should be neutralized by consuming enough fruits.

Coating is a sign of toxification. Water intake should be increased.

Everyone should check their tongue on a daily basis when they brush their teeth and tongue. Any discoloration, lumps, sores or pain should be monitored and evaluated.

To Sir, With Love

It's difficult, even after almost 3 months, to believe that Sir is no more! While I was traveling to Shillong I was thinking that this visit I will see him. He was recently active on Facebook and had become kind of more reachable; he was sharing jokes, he had his political views and of course he displayed his love for Cricket! And with the world cup cricket on we discussed more cricket!

I am just one of those hundreds on whose lives Sir has had a great impact! I had started taking his classes when my board exam was knocking the doors from a little distance, when another of my Mathematics teachers had expired, when there was no teacher in my school who would teach Additional Mathematics. But his confidence in me was ever more than my confidence in myself! He had somehow known that I would do well and that helped me more than anything else.

I remember in one of the tests that he had taken, he picked my paper first and based on the results he corrected the other papers. And in one of the problems he had missed the last line mistake that I had made. The other students checked each other's answer sheets and realized that he had put a cross against the same problem when in fact their solution was correct. He had this trust in me! My eyes are wet as I write this. He did re-check and mine was incorrect! I expected all heaven to break lose that evening but he did not say anything more than asking me to be more careful in my board exam. That I lived up to his expectation is perhaps the best accomplishment in my life.

His teaching and everything about him was different. His humility stood above everything else. He would visit students in the examination hall and provide that much needed word of encouragement. To me he said 'Don't worry, there will be at least one question which you are able to answer, attempt that first and then go for the next, one at a time'. And do I did, I attempted each and every question and complacency made me lose one. When I walked out of the examination hall, I could hear murmurs about how tough the paper was and I was asking myself really, was it tough?

Wherever you are now Sir, you will live in my memory forever!

A cosy corner, rain drops on the window, a cuddling cat...these were all real!!!

I stole this picture from a friend's wall and I will tell her I did! Just like my friend, this picture brought me memories back from my home. My Shillong that is!

I love windows. If anyone has had the patience to read my older posts they would know that there are multiple references to windows - window seats in a car, on a flight, raindrops on the window pane and more!

P.S. I have given up window seat on flights for an aisle. I have matured may be!

Just that sitting by the windows makes me feel secure, secure in a corner while watching the world rush outside. It gives a feeling of relaxation, it gives a feel of comfort! There is a certain joy sitting in one cosy corner and watching the world go by!

My room in Shillong was just a little space, enough for a bed and a chair/table for my study. And a window. And on those rainy mornings and winter evenings it would be so much fun curling up in the bed with a book in hand and there were no mobiles back then to distract you.

And we had a cat too and she would sleep on my feet and any attempt to dislodge her would be totally futile. And then there those hot water bags which Dad would fill and keep it in the bed just as we would finish our dinner. He made it sure that the bed was warm enough and our little Pussy knew that so well. 

Now away from Shillong these are the little things that I miss so much and even now the sound of the rain drops on the window pane makes me nostalgic and I love it so much when I go to sleep with the music of the rain drops soothing my nerves. 

Great memories, but life goes on and lucky to have lived in that part of the world and yes a cosy corner, rain drops on the window, a cuddling cat...these were real!!!

Ahalya

Have you watched Ahalya by any chance? The truth is most people may not have even heard about it. It is a short film in Bengali by Sujoy Ghosh, yes it is as short as almost 15 minutes but the message reaches you and may be you would love to watch it a second time.

This movie is inspired by the character Ahalya most mentioned in our Ramayana. In that story Indra is disguised as Ahalya's husband Gautam and cheats on her. And she is cursed and turned into a stone only to be rescued by Lord Rama.

But who Lord Rama? Yes the same Lord who agrees to send his wife to exile because his people thought that she is impure because she had spent days in another man's kingdom(read Ravana and Lanka).

Well this a society where women are doubted, cursed and humiliated. It is this society where this Lord Rama is worshiped. Seems like he had a bigger reason to send his wife away, because the people mattered!

What Sujoy's film does is give it a contemporary twist while making your imagination run! Won't be a spoiler but go watch!

Bajrangi Bhaijan - Film Review

I rarely write film reviews but I couldn't stop myself from writing something today! I watched the movie today, now in its second week and true to the industry predictions and the box office numbers, it has lived up to expectations!

I know Salman Khan delivers hits, one after another and he times his movie release dates well! I think everyone does! But movies like Dabang etc held no charm for me and I am no Salman fan either! But this really is a good movie! There was not a single moment which bored me and there was enough humor in the movie too! In fact I will rate it better than PK. Aamir over-did in PK and of course the concept was borrowed from OMG.

What struck me most was the simplicity of the movie, the songs, and the Salman style ofcourse even in a sad setting.

But there are a few things beside the movie that comes to my mind and that includes Salman's trial and may be this movie has become the savior for Salman not only in terms of his acting, his choice of movies but also a relief from the personal battles he is fighting. As I said I am no Salman fan and though he cannot be forgiven for the crime he committed years back and his hiding the truth and his contradictory statements, I somehow feel any human being would have done that. Being human is after all not just being compassionate but being yourself with some flaws and some kindness! We all are that after all! How many of us would have confessed our guilt had we the power, the money and the people with us?


This movie is very strategic too. Not only he manages to win the sympathy of the common people, he introduces the selfie song to show his patronage for the selfie loving leader. He rescues a child, saves her thus strengthening the notion that here is a human being who is good at heart! Always!

I don't know about law! I don't know what punishment he deserves! I don't know his intentions when he talks about Yakub Memom! I sure know that those who lost their life were unfortunate but it could have been anybody instead of Salman!

But for the moment he has won! Either by fair, natural or very unfair means!

Ward's Lake, Shillong

My hometown is a quiet, little place, well not so quiet politically but quiet because of nature, because of its beauty and serenity and because it is not so much known! Blame it on our tourism or blame it on yourself, now that you know there is a place which is quiet and serene, you must visit the Ward's Lake in Shillong!

Situated in the heart of Shillong, this one is an artificial lake is named after Sir William Ward, the then Chief Commissioner of Assam, who initiated the plan for the construction of this lake, which was later constructed by Colonel Hopkins in the year 1894, this lake is nature at its very best and  and houses the prettiest of lotuses.

The lake offers boating like another other lake in any hill station but the surrounding view is for your eyes to remember.

The bridge over the lake was its real charm but with years of wear and tear this one is getting repaired. That part of the lake seems to have lost a little of its charm but I can't wait to get there and see how the new bridge will look, will it be a replica of what was there or will it be more grand is for time to decide!

The adjacent park is a nice place to sit and relax, for children to play or to get a bit of the sunshine. You can also catch the most beautiful flowers and not just that you will see a natural and beautiful way the dustbins are placed. Well, that's my hometown! Welcome to some peace, quiet and some relaxation.

Just reach Shillong and anyone will tell you where the lake is! And yes, the entry fee is just so negligible!

Chilli Paneer my style

My kinda chilli paneer recipe for you! And I mean pepper/capsicum! Not that I don't like the green one but this special recipe is incomplete without one yellow and one red capsicum at least.  And what do I do? I cut them in small pieces while the oil in the pan gets heated. I fry the paneer and set them aside.

And then I add the onion to the oil and fry them till golden brown before adding some tomato pieces. I add a bit of coriander seeds as I love the flavor  a lot! Next step is to add the capsicum pieces, add salt according to taste, and cook till done. I will never add water to boil it but will let the steam do the job. Remember to put your gas on sim, so as not to burn while the capsicum gets cooked on a gentle flame.

And as the capsicum gets cooked, add the paneer and mix well and let it cook for a while!

And then garnish it with black pepper. Your lunch is set!

It's perfectly OK to talk

I was talking to this young girl whom I have known since she was a kid. I did not see her much during her growing up years however when she told me she was suffering from depression I was left speechless and though I did not say anything on her face, in my heart I had questions like why, how, what...

I didn't ask her why or since when but from what she told me spontaneously I could figure out that it was pressure, pressure to perform at her studies, pressure to be like her classmates or outshine them and most importantly the comparisons between her and her elder sibling. And that came from all corners - relatives, cousins. Thankfully her parents were supportive and she is well on her way to lead a normal life.

And this incident reminded of someone else who unable to deal with the pressures of his professional course and started behaving different and it took some time for his family to deal with it and get him out of it.

What I don't understand or know is whether such symptoms are on the rise today considering the rat race for which we are prepared for right from our childhood! Dance class, music class, swimming class, foreign language class and what not! Give it a break please, dear parents! Don't let your child do everything that you wanted to do and could not do whatever might have been the circumstances then! Let her choose whatever she is interested in!

And to everyone, young or not-so-young, please talk! It does not do any good keeping things to yourselves and trying to solving it all by yourself! Don't do that! Talk to friends, cry if you must but don't think you are alone! Every one goes through ups and downs in life and there is no magic available to come out of it. It takes time, patience, family and friends to help one out of a situation. Speak, get some advise and walk ahead! Don't compare your journey with anyone else's.

Go for the right reason and you will only have smiles

At a gathering of some family friends this was the discussion that was happening! The bride in question had spent some time with her husband and his family and returned to hers! Then after spending quite a good time with her parents she decides to file a case against her husband and in-laws. On what? Dowry and related harassment!

Have we not heard this very often? I guess most of us will utter a resounding yes! But not many of us will dive deep into the truth and the facts. And as was apparent in this discussion that the girl did not know what she wanted or may be she knew the intricacies just too well. She filed some case, she did not want to withdraw that, she wanted to come back or not I was not too clear but what I got from the overall discussion was she was waiting for the husband to take the calls. That would ensure that she would get a huge alimony since it was the husband who asked for it!

I hung my head in disbelief but somewhere my heart knew that this was not the only instance of taking advantage of a benefit that one has been entitled to! So you see society has reached that point where even a institution like marriage is used for trading, counting the benefits and deciding what next steps to take depending on the benefits!

I am not sure if ever we as human beings will come out of this give and take complicity and simply live life as it is meant to be lived, not on any terms but simply because you love it that way!

That brings me to the essential question of marriage! Why is that such a necessity to survive in a society and why money and benefits become the most important factor?

A few days back I read how the internet was trending with the news of Suhasini Mulay's marraige, four years back, when she married at an age of sixty! Why is it a big news? She married when she wanted to! But if the news is making positive impact, well then it should be a news! A big one! Let us strive for a society where feelings matter!

Education or Business or simply a joke?

Often I wonder why our universities don't rank among the top universities of the world and often I have realized that our educational system does not fund enough research work perhaps because we are a generation of muggers! We believe in quick wins, we believe in use and throw! No wonder why we have never perfected any art! We are jack of all trades and master of none.

And it starts early, from school and its deteriorating day by day. I don't know what I am going to write here applies to everywhere in India or not, I am simply citing an example of Delhi, yes Delhi, the country's capital! Here is a class VII student and his holiday homework is like a paperwork on pollution, what causes it and who are the victims. Okay, as far as understanding the causes of pollution I can say that this will add to his knowledge but when he is asked to interview people who suffer due to these causes I am left speechless! First this is not something a holiday homework is made of, second why would someone discuss his or her ailments with a young boy? I am not sure what this homework is aimed at! And what value is received by writing on a colored paper in multi colored ink! And when I ask the same student if he knew how many states India has, there was no answer! I just don't understand today's educational system! What fun in fancy note pads and all colorful outside and a hollow inside!

And above all, its not that the child is doing all by himself! This is a burden to the parents except for the fact that the parents are also learning but the intent of these holiday home works is not clear by any means! Also these days the holiday homework etc are uploaded on internet, shared on whatsapp etc...but why? Is this utilizing technology or simply creating unnecessary burden for the student and his/her family. Okay its good to be techn savvy but to what extent?

I really want to know what the school does with these papers, do these go to the waste basket? We talk of saving our environment, is this the way? Or more importantly does the teacher have the time to check each of these assignments and provide feedback to the students, other than awarding some marks? And is the child really learning something or is in a hurry to get the homework finished before the school re-opens.

I think it's time to review the educational system, I also think parents collectively should question the logic behind mindless holiday homework. I read only today that India is the second most obese nation in the world. Instead of driving the children and their parents  to compulsory internet connections why not drive them to the playground, to a session of yoga or simply a daily morning walk. I reiterate the right to question  the schools, the syllabus and the educational system.

In Pursuit of Fairness

It starts when you are in your mother's womb! People will advise her to eat Paneer so you are born fair! And I am not joking! The first question your granny will ask your dad after you are born is 'Is she fair or dark?' Of course the very first question will be 'Is it a girl or a boy?'. Consider you are born fair, the first hindrance to your finding a groom is resolved and yes, the groom hunt syndrome starts that early! But if it is otherwise, expect a lot of blame to fall on your mother and ultimately you are going to have to deal with a society which is chasing its pursuit of fairness!

And forget about the peers who you have to deal with, the television will bombard you with fairness products, either making you feel low or making you spend money on those useless cremes. So it will seem to you that the only way to land to a job of your dreams is when you are fair. Same with marriage!


And I hate it the most when I see a Fair and Handsome ad. No, I don't really hate but I want to laugh hard at the dumbness of the people who call themselves creative people, God knows what gave birth to the fairness concept. Well, actually its cheating the innocent and under confident people  and making money of their fears!

I forgot the matrimonial ads! Wanted fair girl! What if that fair girl had no brains? What if that fair girl was not the one the boy loved! Well, well..I never understood!


Okay I understand they have a product to sell and they can go to any limits but what about the role models who don't even know what their bank account looks like, why do they endorse these products? What message do they send to the society? So, it comes as a welcome relief when someone like a Kangana Ranaut says no; she doesn't care for the money nor the brand name. This is the way an example is set! Freida Pinto once mentioned ""If a cream can give you confidence, then you really have to check your whole confidence department in the first place." so, ladies before you fall out for these products check your confidence department, you don't need a dash of colour, you need a bit of strength! Also remember to watch out the chemical components and make sure you are not ruining your skin for good!

Cherrapunjee

Cherrapunjee is a name familiar to mostly everyone. It boasts of the heaviest rainfall in the earth. This place is locally known as 'Sohra' and is located in the East Khasi Hills of Meghalaya!

The beauty of Sohra is breathtaking and the best part of it is that it has not been much commercialized unlike most other hill stations. The natural surroundings, the trees, the streams and of course the  waterfalls all add to the beauty.

The drive from Shillong to Cherrapunjee is awesome! All around the clouds float covering the mountains and in summers the vast green is a treat to the eye! Waterfalls worthy of note are the Wakaba waterfalls, the Seven Sisters and the Nohkalikai! One can stand there for hours and watch the view and occasionally one can spot the rainbow as well forming against the falling waters when the sun rays strike at the appropriate angle! One can view the plains of Bangladesh very clearly from Seven Sisters!

The other point of interest are the caves! These are caves of natural limestone formation. Mawsmai caves are a must for everyone who are in for a little bit of adventure!

Cherrapunjee is also famous for its living root bridges. Over hundreds of years the people in Cherrapunjee have developed techniques for growing roots of trees into large bridges. The process takes 10–15 years and the bridges typically last hundreds of years, the oldest ones in use being over 500 years old!

A must visit place I must say and go during summers if you love to get a bit of the rain fun!

The Road

That road and that path are so etched in the memory, that turn and that curve I could walk in my dream, that slope I could climb blindfolded till the end of time...that corner where we friends gossiped and those blocks where the kids played and that forbidden lane too...my home, oh my home...clear in my thoughts, crystal clear always it will be!

Book Review: Animal Farm

Featured in BBC's list of must-reads George Orwell's "Animal Farm" is one book which escaped my attention all this while until a friend recommended it to me recently. Animal Farm is the very familiar setting of any society, a race, or a creed who after being oppressed for long enough decide to fight against the odds. A leader or a group of leaders, visionaries come to the rescue and the common man believe in these new set of leaders and a mass movement takes place. So happened in Animal Farm where inspired by Old Major, Snowball and Napoleon rise to the occasion and spend time, effort, energy and thought and revolt against Jones ultimately chasing him away! The new breed are full of hope, hope for the future and with their enthusiasm are capable of turning dreams into reality. They succeed initially and with a bit of beginner's luck and support of the masses are actually able to make progress.

But power corrupts and has corrupted generations and Animal Farm was no exception. Napoleon in his arrogance, pride and some bit of insecurity plots a story against Snowball, eliminates his political rival very cleverly and spreads all sorts of rumors and lies. The followers are left in a state of confusion, fear and not able to decide right from wrong. Sometimes they trust blindly and sometimes in a state of helplessness. This goes on and on and hardly does anybody realize that the original values have been compromised for, the trust has been misplaced and self interest has taken a priority over everything else. So Napoleon of our Animal Farm has not only managed to dismiss Snowball from the followers' memories but in his arrogance has taken the role of a dictator. He enters into partnership with his original rivals, for this game of politics and power is such that one becomes his/her own slave, distinguishing between what one is, to what one was and what is right is clouded. Benfits take precedence and values take a back seat. 

Flatterers are favored, hard work is ignored and those little struggles are banished. Honest opinion and sincerity are not respected, not appreciated and the honest die their natural death.No care was taken when the hard worker Boxer was sick and he actually gets killed. And the watchers watch in silence!

But nothing lasts forever and in the battle for power, no one wins and at the end one can't just distinguish between who was what!

As put by my friend, timeless!

Basanti Puja

The other Durga Puja! We celebrated it at home for 4 days and it was more than 4 days of festivity and get-together for us!

Memory is still fresh with the smell of those early mornings when filling water for the Puja activities was the first chore of the day. We did not have a water storage back then and whatever we could collect in vessels and buckets would be consumed for the Puja. Of course we had those cemented tanks where the rest of the water is stored even now in our Shillong home.

Then Ma would begin her normal day-to-day work followed by a bathe and then ensuring that the Puja rituals got taken care of! Same with Baba! Two of our very close family friends would be the first to come. Jethi and dida(aunt and granny) would be the first to come, do the preparations in time, rest a while, go to their homes and come back again. They did this year after year, extending that kind of support sometimes your kin fail to provide.

Then the aunts followed and other relatives followed. We would have mouth watering lunches, specially prepared, the main bhog prepared by Ma and the others by my Pishis and we even had cooks.

It would seem exaggerated if I say that we did not know the count of people who could come home to have the prasad because this far outnumbered the people who we invited. And there would be frequent complains from people if we happened to miss someone in our invite list. Over the years Ma and Baba thought of making the whole event  simple because of the difficulty in managing everything, difficulty in getting help, difficulty in getting priests etc but it was a blessing for us that every year we had the blessings to have all these people in our homes just for a simple prayer or a simple prasad.

And there are other stories too of some of our specially talented neighbors, who specialized in emptying an entire 'handi' of  Khichdi much above their capacity and walking up and down the Umpling roads for most of the night just to digest. And yes this is true!

Then we and the cousins use to have awesome time eating, feeding, playing and being happy with everyone around.

With passing time comes several constraints and we had finally to shift this Puja to Kamakhya temple where dad visits every year to witness the proceedings being done.

Memories remain...

Miss Know All - Part 2

Just thought of having her self-glorifying status messages here for some laugh :-)

People who have not even spoke to me, often form opinions of the negative kind simply from looking at me. The fact that I carry myself without giving any importance to the opinions that are going to be formed about me is a major contributor to their annoyance. How do I know that they form opinions? from the contemptuous (read hidden jealousy) looks they throw sideways at me.

Tell you its such fun to piss of complete strangers without doing anything except just being me. I love being me

As if to coincide with my previous blog, she decides to call herself narcissist and of course with pride. So there must be other people around who thought on those lines.

And I on my part have been thinking if I have ever shared my blog with her!!!

More to come...and I am sure about that.

The Know All

Ok, she's a friend's friend but she's on my Facebook Friend list as FB makes everyone a friend. And yes I added her sometime back because back then between friends there use to be funny conversations and the participation seemed effortless! But with time comes realizations of different sorts when you get to know that all your tastes are after all not alike. And that's with most people actually however with people you have not met, you become more judgmental.

But I don't form opinions too early either, its after reading through her posts daily that I have classified her as "The Know All".

First we have different political views and there was a time when she thought her leader would rule but when that did not happen, she was quick to admit that she is even ready for what is, provided some such and such were satisfied.

Next came the Soccer World cup and oh well she lost on that count too. And brave enough she congratulated the fans who had won!

It's true that we all have different political views or support different teams and what pleased me was that she did not get much of a chance to go blah blah because her teams lost.

She is not very old, must have just touched 40 but she takes so much pride in saying that she looks 20 something, that her weight is balanced and that she manages to look the best in every situation. She's not ugly I tell you, nor overweight but when she endlessly goes on speaking about herself, I want to say 'stop'.

And then are endless posts on how well mannered her children her, how much fashion conscious they are and how much they have common taste when it comes to movies. That's nice friend but every parent must be feeling the same of their children.

That's not all, she cooks the best dishes in the world, dresses her children the best, her home decor is just fantastic.

And she has problems against everybody, the school, her society, the customer care of her mobile network provider, the newspaper editorial, people who less care for their dressing etc. But when she is lazy to do her hair, the unkempt hair is the next 'in' thing or when someone stares at her only grey hair, that person is crazy.

And since she is a busy homemaker(no pun intended) she finds ample time to do her home, mind it her maid is also crazy. She hates the corporate world, but loves the free move tickets her husband gets as a perk and yes she finds enough time for Facebook!

Why is she still on my list? How would I have found some material for this post of mine?