Daughters

Off late I am seeing this quote doing the rounds on internet, sms, facebook etc etc - "A son is a son till he takes a wife, a daughter is a daughter the rest of her life..." I beg to play the devil's advocate here!

Well, the son who gets a wife is also someone else's daughter. Now if she is such a nice daughter to her parents, why does she become the cause for her husband's family to think that their son is no longer theirs. She should then have the understanding and feeling that her husband's parents are not much different from her own parents and that she should not be the raeson for his moving away from their lives...

It's easy for me to form an opinion now and now that I have not been in the daughter-in-law's shoes yet, I don't really know how it is when you are there in that family.

But my firm opinion is that the parents themselves seem to move away from their son and hence the repulsion. So also, the daughter-in-law has been fed with stories of horrible in-laws that she comes with a pre-defined mindset and not ready to mingle.

Your take people?

Maid o maid

Having a help at home often makes you crippled. You get into that comfort zone and from there it's so difficult to come out. Wihout the maid, you would wake up on time as you knew your list of to-do things. But now that she does most of the things for you, the day she decided to take a break, you are at loss.
Last week it happened that not knowing that my dear maid would not turn up, I was following my normal routine and then realized that everything went hayway. I ended up fighting with everyone at home and then the entire day was screwed up because I didn't start the day well.

It happened today again and the reason she gave for her not making it was the rain. I told her that I am not taking a leave because of the rain and if she really wanted to rest, she could have at least called and informed. I told her that why does it take me to remind the same thing again and again? Anyway, today wasn't as bad as the previous one but now I have to wait to see her reaction tomorrow.

My First Class

Teaching does not require me to spend much effort as most of the time I am confident when I know the subject and believe that I can explain it well. I also used to take classes for school students when I was in my graduation days and my best achievement was when a so-called 'good for nothing' student reached 90% after my continuous guidance and I was mighty proud.
Those were the days when I did a lot of study myself and was more confident. But after my post graduation and when I was job hunting, I had opted for a teaching job just to fetch myself some money and also since boredom and frustration would have killed me otherwise! When appearing for my interview, I chose all possible subjects which I could teach so as to give me better prospects for that job. And my first class was of Operations Research, a subject I was not much fond of anyway! On top of that, the first chapter was something about goal setting which I had never studied myself. With only a few hours that I got for preparing myself, I took to a real test of teaching.
Well, I gave my students a very detailed introduction of what we are doing, what we need to do and why we are doing and what my expectations were. You see I had to survive one hour. Then we set out to do an example and I think by the end of the class, I had arrived.
This class,  I learned later, use to be the most notorious class and my first class was actually a litmus test, to ascertain whether I was fit for teaching. And it seems they had okayed me. Later all of them grew so friendly even as I maintained the dignity of being a teacher for students of my own age and may be elder. I was so strict that I would ask them to solve problems in the class and not look at each other's notes. On one ocassion, I asked one of them to use my calculator since he had the excuse that he didn't have one.
This day remains fresh, very fresh in my memory and I know that I can!

Emily

I don't believe it, I don't believe it...how can you just leave so soon? I am seeing your pics...seeing the ones that I have missed over the last two- three years...I am seeing the love in your eyes for your son...I am feeling so sad for George, he is so young...

You did look a bit different from how I have seen you, short hair and all and may be it's my mind which is not thinking right now...I think you did look a little unhealthy in your recent pics...

I always loved your spirit...you were so bold...always seemed to know everything...

We knew each other professionaly and that's why perhaps I never addded you on FB and I could never find you on linkedin...I searched last week too...but now you are beyond all these...

I saw you when you were carrying George, how you balanced work and your personal life was what I admired most...why did you leave George behind??? He's not even 3...too young...

RIP Emily! You will always be remembered!

Portuguese food

Yes, I am a fan of whatever I know and have tasted of Portuguese food. My brush with Portuguese food happened in Sydney where I was introduced to 'Ogalo'. I love Ogalo food a lot and often wonder why they don't have chains in most other places. I enjoy the spicy taste and it feels so much 'desi' as in Indian!

Nandos comes to a close second. They are more we ll known too and Peri Peri is a personal favourite too! I hear we have one in Delhi now but I am too laxy to go to Vasant Kunj to try the same.

But I really miss Ogalo!!!

Procrastination

Why do I keep things for the last minute? Is it just me or half the world who has this problem? Submitting investment proofs at the last moment, taking prints, searching for rubber stamps happen on the very last day! So, you will find a queue at the printer, queue at the stationery departement and so on.

Even with submitting our self appraisal, we wait for the last day just in case we had a new point to add to our achievements. Even while evaluating another's we wait till the last day so that the person has to keep waiting till the last moment to buy our time.

The mad mad rush is something which drives us I believe! We don't expect or want things to happen on time. And perhaps there are exceptions and I would like to be one too!

Blocked Nose/Stuffed Nose/Running Nose

hmmm...Winters! And this year the temperature seems to be below than that on other years. And I am getting these strange problems. When I wake up, my nose seems to be blocked and the other running and this happens irrespective of the time I sleep! I was never much an afternoon sleeper but these days I seem to doze off and when I wake up the same problem persists. I suddenly feel cold and then my throat and nose both seem itchy too. It gets better after a while though. I can also sleep peacefully inspite of a little wheezing sound I hear when I wake up.

I hate to go to a doctor and wondering which homoeo remedy would best suit me. My dad has been prescribing a medicine but I am too lazy to take that and decided on my own. Seems to have initially worked but if I am irregular who is to blame.

I am also on the lookout for natural remedies and ginger and garlic seem to the obvious choices but here too it is not working or may be I am not regular. I also made the greatest of homoeo mistakes and that is to take garlic when homeo medicines are on. Strong spices, tomato, coffee all destroy the homeo medicine's effect. I must be here or there and can't be at both the places.

I am too lazy to try steam therapy; may be today :-) And may be today I will try out another homoeo medicine and see if it has any positive effect. Or is it allergy? Well...Wish me luck!!!
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Day 3: Well, I tried Nux Vomica since my nose is alternately stuffed up and running. I took the medicine for 2 days and just one dose before sleeping. I did feel slightly better as the stuffiness slightly reduced but I think I should increase the dosage. I will update the blog when I see some remarkable improvement. I thought Nux would be good because I am having little problem with bowels as well. But honestly I had never known that Nux could be a cure.
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Day 5: Nux seems to be working. Slowly. At least the stuffed nose seems to be getting better and it's the running one that I have to take care of now! That's because I am lazy with the doses I guess! A friend advised me the following: Boil water and add ajwain and saunf and bring it to half. When it has cooled down, drink it before sleeping.  I did that last night and felt slightly better on waking up this morning.
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Day 7: I am feeling better, not sure its the medicine that is working or the weather. May be both!